Getting the (decluttering) balance right…
There are lots of schools of thought about decluttering – from one extreme (get rid of anything you don’t use) to another (keep everything just in case). I think I’m somewhere in the middle. Basically, I think it’s about finding the right balance for you! If you understand why you’re holding onto something AND you have room to store it, then I’m ok with that. I understand that objects hold sentimental value, but you may not want it to be visible all the time. Having said that, for practical reasons, you simply can’t hold onto everything. Storage and maintenance do play a role here. Also, you have to think about what will happen to this stuff when you’re gone (because – let’s face it – that’s inevitable). Do we want to burden our kids with having to hold onto this stuff through obligation or to get rid of it without imparting the stories behind the item? In the second point, then what was the point on keeping it for all those years, right?
I have a little green vase that was my mother’s favourite aunt’s. It’s sweet and I use it quite a lot. I think of her and the womenfolk of my mum’s family (including my mum) that have gone before me. I say a little prayer of thanks that they passed onto me the importance of family and how to be a loving mum myself. Yet, unless I tell my kids that story – impart that intangible element of that vase – they won’t value it (& its connections). So, I share with them in conversational way, the stories I think of when I hold or use that vase. I talk about my grandmother and her sister, Marcella, how they were nurses. How they loved horses, and cooking. How they laughed and sewed and supported each other. How they loved each other and how Aunty Marcella loved my mum and her siblings because Marcella never married and she treated them like they were her own. I never actually met Aunty MArcella, but through my mum’s and grandmother’s stories, I really feel like I do know her. And this is what I want to pass down to my kids. Stories about my granny who they never knew, so that they will feel a connection with her, and my mum and – eventually – with me when I go.
So, I guess what I’m saying, is: be present in the moment when you’re decluttering. If you’re in doubt and you’re able to hold onto it/things, then do! You can always let it go later on. Better to go slower and make the the right decision and have no regrets than barge on through and feel crap later, right~!??
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